The Problem: A relative has been just diagnosed with terminal cancer. Should I tell them about the cancer or just tell them that the relative is very sick? My children are in elementary school and preschool.
Having just gone though this myself, I know how hard the decision can be. Ultimately, I chose to tell my children. I felt they had a right to know. I did not want them to have any regrets on how they chose to spend the time they had left with the relative. There were those within my family who disagreed with my decision. However, I stood firm, and later they realized the wisdom of my decision. This was the right choice for my children but it might not be the right choice for your children. Honestly, there is no right or wrong answer. Just choose what you feel is in the best interest of your children and the relative and ignore those who disagree with your decision. The only person who knows what it's like to be in your shoes is you.
Alison Nguyen has worked in the educational field for 16 years. She has experience with autistic, learning support, resource room, itinerate, push-in, and multiple disabilities. Alison lives with her husband and four children in Bucks County, Pennsylvania.